Paul McCartney, Apparently, Was Wrong
To quote the good Sir McCartney, âI donât care too much for money, money canât buy me love.â
Unfortunately it seems the simpler days of the 1960s have gone the way of the Dodo.
Because now, dear readerâŠNOW we live in an age where dating is no longer an exercise in going out, meeting people, and working to find romantic compatibility in another human being.
NOW we live in a world where dating has been reduced to stalking a personâs Facebook or getting acquainted through online dating sites before ever meeting in meet space.
There are, of course, the more salacious technologies out there that aid those who are only looking for a quick fling with no more commitment than it takes to rent a room, spend a few hours bumping uglies, and moving on with life.
Not that thereâs anything wrong with that, of courseâŠ
And perhaps itâs the same kind of pure and bold-faced honesty that is driving some people to go looking for exactly what they want; someone to buy their love.
Carrot isnât the only means of âsugar daddy datingâ currently out there, but it sure as hell makes it easier with their mobile app.
In sugar daddy dating, just as it sounds, both parties in the couple have a spoken or unspoken agreement that one person (the sugar daddy) will lavish the other member with gifts and monetary rewards.
In sugar daddy dating, the sugar daddy can present exactly what they plan to buy or pay for, allowing the recipient to make their decision based purely on the quality of their offering.
Itâs something like paying a dowery without the pesky father in the middle.
And Carrot is rather aptly titled, borrowing from that whole âcarrot and a stickâ metaphor. Itâs not entirely inaccurate, but to this writerâs mind itâs nothing less than unflattering.
For an example of this pure, dirty honesty used by the app makers, take a look at their explanation for the service:
âCarrot Dating is the worldâs first mobile app where singles can use bribery to get first dates. This unique approach teaches singles to always bring something to the table. Whether it is a special gift or a unique activity, the Carrot Dating app gives you the power to prove your worth and date the man or woman of your dreams.â
Anyone who has ever endured one of my old man rants knows that Iâve somehow turned extremely old-fashioned in my 31 years.
But I have to believe that the things people should âbring to the tableâ canât be bought with money; things like compassion, honesty, high moral fiber, and a passion in something, anything larger than themselves.
Ah, but weâre in a different marketplace these days where this kind of currency isnât always accepted.
According to some stats posted by Reuters and the Washington Post, 40 million people have given online dating a shot. eHarmony.com and Match.com members make up 35 million of those supposed 40 million who tried it. And over all the online dating industry rakes in about $1.049 BILLION a year.
Which is to say, if youâre single, chances are youâre going to try online dating, and things like compassion, high moral fiber, etc., canât be immediately determined in an online profile.
Perhaps my beef is more with online dating and not Carrot.
A caveat, if youâll allow it; I appreciate honesty where I see it, and while I wouldnât condone bribery dating, I think itâs mostly harmless if all parties know what theyâre getting into.
But if itâs something meaningful youâre looking for, best not to sell yourself cheaply for a gift which can be burned with fire or washed away in a flood. Likewise, itâs best not to cheapen a personâs virtue by trying to put a price tag on their worth.
But thatâs just me.
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