Having a Bad Day at Work? Try This.
Iâm about to have visitors at work: about 135 of them for 55 minutes each â daily. Being a teacher is so incredibly taxing because Iâm not just a teacher. In many ways, my job description includes being, doing, or providing just about everything a child needs. Itâs exhausting. Most days I feel like I can hardly take care of myself, much less someone else.
I am easily stressed and most of the time I feel as if I canât take another day. Often itâs my adult co-workers that are pushing me over that edge! Thatâs why I think these next few strategies will work for you in times of conflict, regardless of your industry.
Try On Their Shoes. I Bet They Pinch.
I imagine this might be hard for many, but if your co-worker is approachable on good days, ask them for a quick run-down of what their day is like. We focus on our roles but rarely hear how we factor in to the whole picture. Iâd also guess they throw in some personal stuff without realizing it, which shows you that their personal life is affecting their mindset a little. Itâs normal, itâs human. Sometimes, though, just being honest and saying, âHeyâŠIâd like to know what your day is like. I want to know how my job supports what you do,â because we all know the group meetings arenât accurate.
You Cannot Unsee Things
This is a gimme, and itâs been mentioned a million times in other places butâŠbefore you hit âsend,â go take a bathroom break or set a timer. You may still feel the same way but giving it even a few minutes can keep you from making a quick decision youâll regret. Just quickly scan for tone and, no, this doesnât only apply to situations where you may be angry. Even the most innocent of emails can be interpreted wrong, depending on how things are worded.
Glance Behind You
Think about when your work situation was considerably worse. Perhaps you went home smelling like fried chicken every night. Maybe you worked a customer service booth at a retailer with poor management. How did you get where you are today? Is it an improvement? Wasnât there excitement and novelty at first? Channel it again. While the answer might be no, realize that you always have choice on how to change things around, even if itâs not today.
Lend a Helping Hand
On some downtime, a break, or whenever you feel comfortable, find someone at your workplace that you actually like and ask them if theyâd like some help with a quick task. Using that verbiage shows that youâre not willing to toil at their job but youâd like to give a bit of short, friendly assistance.
Keep Your Comments To Yourself
Seriously. The workplace â regardless of what you do â is already a rumor mill. Through my experience in all types of jobs, Iâve learned one important thing: work friends arenât really âfriends.â Trust no one. The more you talk (or, vent, as so many people like to say) to your co-workers, the more trouble youâre causing for yourself. Go ahead and try it if you donât believe me.
Itâs okay to wander off in your thoughts and daydream but actually HEAR what I am saying: donât spend much time on it. The last thing you need is another problem. Think about something that makes you smile. If youâre thinking that anywhere else in the world would be better than being at work right now, then think about it. Find a quick piece of inner peace and get back to work, man!
Who Can You Control?
If you answer anything but âmyselfâ to that question, youâre flat-out wrong. Regardless of our roles at work, regardless of our intimidation factors, we really only have control over ourselves. Once you accept that, you can relax a bit. Do what you do. Try to do your best as often as possible because, ultimately, thatâs all you CAN do. There may be a difference in opinion between you and your co-workers on that but, Iâll be honestâŠI canât give advice on that one.
A Glass of Vino a DayâŠ
Many sites have quoted a study (or studies) showing that people who work with children rank in the bottom 5% of alcoholic professionals. I donât know where the hell they got that from because I donât know a single teacher who doesnât drink and, out of those, fewer who admit to overdoing it quite often. Many teachers exhibit the signs of functioning alcoholics, from what I can see. Just to confuse my readers about what type of person I really am, Iâm going to throw in a little Alcoholics Anonymous stuff at you. Sometimes, the only thing that can make you see a brighter side is a drink on the porch, with your feet up, and appreciating whatever climate youâre in. At the same time, the AA approach is fantastic as well: Just take it one day at a time.
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