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For The Last Time, I’m Hard NOT Horny!

Jul 28, 13 For The Last Time, I’m Hard NOT Horny!

It’s finally time someone takes the time to sit down and explain the difference between erect and arousal. Because for years now, that common misconception has gotten guys in more trouble than they care to admit.

Now obviously, this article is for the more feminine readers. The main reason is that the subject of talk just happens to be attached to our male readers, and they have been putting up with it since they got that first weird tingle after looking through the clothing section of a Sears catalogue. (If it was different for you, then congratulations, that’s all I could get my hands on at the time.)

Now if you have had “the birds and the bees talk,” you know the basics of male anatomy and the reproductive system. (If you haven’t, I advise that you go find an adult and ask them. Take a picture of their reaction when you do.) In a crash course version, when a male becomes excited, blood flow begins to increase to his genitalia, causing an erection, or more commonly known as he gets “hard.” (Also known as stuffy, boner, pitching a tent, wood, etc.) Where people start getting confused is that  they believe that arousal is always followed by erection, or vice versa. However that’s not the actual case.

An online article, “Understanding Male Sexual Arousal,” explains that the way our body works is that we work off of reflex. When men first come across something that arouses or excites them, the area of the brain designated for the response of sexuality is contacted and triggered.

Where the confusion on this matter comes into play is when people assume that arousal and erection are always paired, when that’s in fact not the case. In the first states of arousal the body sends information and hormones to that part of the brain, and at that point, your body determines if the object of arousal should be pursued. So in this process, if you find that sexual excitement from a person you have seen, the brain would prompt and persuade you to go try and talk to them. But, in that phase, that does not automatically mean a man will have an erection, all the while still being aroused.

But that process can be switched, where a man can be erect while not being aroused. The best way to describe it is from an old phrase: “Life is like a dick. Sometimes it gets hard for no reason.” Our bodies can trick our brains to trigger certain actions, without any real reason or purpose. For men, one of the most common incidents come from our little soldiers popping up in the middle of nowhere without warning. Every average male who has been through puberty has a dozen stories or memories of them randomly having to deal with an unexpected boner in the middle of class. The reason is because since arousal is a reflex response, sometimes it acts when there is no real need. So you could be in the middle of a family living room, watching Looney tunes (I’m old school.) and one decides to pop.

Another reason for this stems from blood pressure. When our blood pressure is altered, this can happen. When we wake up, most men are greeted with “morning wood.” That’s a response from an increase in blood pressure from our heart beating faster in order for our body to properly function. (Sorry to all the women who assumed that morning wood happened because your boyfriend was thinking of you. Sorry, but you have nothing to with that.) Same thing goes for when it is lowered. When our blood pressure is decreased, our blood can flow easier, allowing for the penis to fill with blood. That’s actually what erectile dysfunction pills like Viagra and Cialis do. They’re blood thinners.

Well I hope this has helped women get educated on our struggle. I also hope it helped men understand why our body acts stupid from time to time. Sometimes we are hard and not horny, and sometimes we are horny and not hard.

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